Month: February 2018

What Superpower Would You Pick

I Choose Less Sleep

If you had one choice and that was it, there was no turning back after you picked. What superpower would you pick? Anything is on the table. Would you pick flying, strength, maybe read people’s minds? Would you pick one to be cool and make you better than others? Or maybe you would pick one to help others and try and make a difference.

My whole life I always struggled with reading and was slow. So, I thought if I could read faster that would be huge. I can learn more and get through more material faster. That was the power I picked a while ago. Then one day it hit me, it was a busy week between both my jobs working on the website. I was getting up early for a few days in a row for work and going to bed early. It hit me one day, I wish I didn’t have to sleep so long.

60 Extra Days A Year

I’m one of those people I think I need seven or eight hours of sleep. Now when I’m working early for a few days in a row or working late for example that doesn’t always happen. For me, I changed my power. My new power would be to only need four hours of sleep a night and that would be the equivalent of my eight hours of sleep. I think that would be awesome, and think of all of the extra time you would have every day?

There are 365 days in a year, with four extra hours a day. That would give me roughly 60 extra days in a calendar year. Can you imagine what you could do with 60 extra days every year? Even if you had five extra days a year, that would be huge for your success and what you want to accomplish. Think of all of that extra time you would have every day. You sleep for four hours, work for eight hours that’s 12 hours right there. You still have half the day left to do whatever you want.

What’s Important To You

If you would pick this power, I think how somebody answers this next question is how you find out the kind of person they are or what’s important to them. How would you spend those 12 hours every day? Would you relax watching movies, playing video games, what would you do? Maybe you’re trying to build a new career and start your own business like me. Think of all of those extra hours you can invest in your craft every day? Look at how much better you will get every day and how much farther you can get every day.

My memoir about me that I’m trying to get published. Writing that took about a month and a half maybe two months to write the rough draft. Now I added stuff over the years and changed things of course. But say it took two months, that’s the amount of time I would have added to my life every day if I could sleep less? Think about how much extra time I would have going forward if I finished my book with those bonus days? That would leave me two more months this year to write another book.

Choose Wisley

Now do we have superpowers, well no of course not. Are some people gifted and have amazing skills and talents, of course. To be honest, I could sleep four hours a day, but I wouldn’t be very productive and that wouldn’t be healthy for me. In the end, I think that would end up hurting me. So that’s, why you need to pick your power, very careful.

Now I don’t have those extra four hours a day, I think you knew that. But what I do have is the mindset and the drive to keep working and make the best use of the time I do have. Another way you could look at it is like this. I lost four hours, and I have to keep working to make up for that time I lost. Now a negative with that is, it’s probably not healthy if all you do is work and not live every day with that outlook towards life. If you have a goal your working on you could do that for a short time to try and get ahead of others or a project you’re working on.

What Would You Pick

This game is innocent fun. I want to hear from you, what superpower would you choose, and why? Comment below, I want to hear what people would choose if anything was on the table. There’s no right or wrong answer with this, so if you’re worried about that its ok you won’t fail haha. This is supposed to be fun, so let me know what you would choose?

Work is very important and I’m working very hard trying to share my story with kids and trying to build a connection with them through my blog and stories. With working hard every day and trying to provide for your family for example or taking care of whoever you’re taking care of. You also need to enjoy life and make the most of it.

Start Enjoying Life Why You Still Can

Sometimes I know it’s easy to get frustrated, trust me I completely agree and I get it. Instead of focusing so much on what you’re in the middle of or what cloud is hanging over you right now. Why not try and focus on what else is in front of you. Keep living and keep working hard every day, work doesn’t always have to be work. It can be fun and life can be fun. It’s about time we start enjoying it and making the most of it why we can. Life is short, you never know when it might come to an end and your life might be taken from you.

Building A Solid Foundation

My Foundation

Building a solid foundation is laying the groundwork for what you’re trying to build. Sometimes if you don’t pick the correct lot or come up with a well thought out plan. Your foundation might crack, or who knows what might happen in the future.

That’s why building a solid foundation is so vital and important for the days to come. What you put into your everyday life and your foundation your working on. Your mindset is what will help take you over the edge, good or bad.

What if instead of a foundation of a building, you look at the foundation of your life? What will you say about that at this moment? Would you say it’s a good foundation, or is it starting to crack and your hanging on for dear life? For me, because I don’t really care about you right now HA just kidding. In my past, I wouldn’t have changed anything. Even though it’s tempting, those hard times is what helped build me into the person I am today.

Negative Mindset

I’m human I’m not perfect and my emotions get the best of me every now and then. Sometimes, I’m still not crazy and don’t like myself. Now I know that’s not a good attitude, and I completely agree with that. That’s a constant battle I will be fighting with all of the days ahead of me. With becoming my toughest critic over the years. Somedays I look at what I did and didn’t do in recent days, or even in my past. It’s easy to think, crap why did I do that or why didn’t I push a little harder?

Yes, I have made mistakes and I will make even more mistakes ahead of me. The thing that matters is, I don’t focus too much on those mistakes and where I was or what I did earlier. Focusing on the present and where I want to go is what’s important next. Do I know what the future holds, of course not? Do I know if my books will do well, no I don’t? Will I even leave an impact on people and try and make a difference, or just keep talking about it? Those are common thoughts I have as I’m putting in the work and trying to build a strong foundation over the years.

Don’t Stop Moving

A negative mindset is one of the many ticking time bombs that can bring you or what you’re trying to build down. If you let it get out of control, it’s like cancer and keeps growing. That’s why you need to find the source and figure out the problem. When building a solid foundation, it’s important to trust and rely on your team. Unless it’s a one-man show and this battle you have to take on yourself.

If you’re a lone wolf through this journey and project your own. Sometimes we need to go through that storm alone. But what makes things different is when the person knows when to ask for help and when not to. Are you asking for help because you don’t want to do it? Or are you asking for help, because it’s physically not possible with one person? That’s what you need to recognize.

My Perspective On Life

This might be a surprise to you, but I don’t know what’s next for Peter. Now to some people that might freak them out. Seeing an open field and the unknown. Now on the flip side and the plus about that is, anything you want is out in front of you. It’s all about how you look at life and your perspective towards it. Is the glass half full, or half empty?

For me, I had both parents, three sisters an amazing family. With a roof over my head and my parents worked very hard to provide a great life for me. With that, I’m beyond blessed, and I know I have it easier than a good percentage of people in the world. I can’t deny that, and I won’t even try to defend that I didn’t have it easy.

I Hate Jenga

Now, what was hard for me and what made my earlier years so challenging for me. Was the battle I was fighting every day with myself. Being diagnosed with my disability I used that as an excuse and a copout saying I couldn’t make it in life. It’s impossible to be successful, I can’t even pass in school how am I going to get a job and provide for a family? Well before I can provide for my family, who would even want to marry this stupid kid? That was my first problem, I can’t take care of the simple things in my life. How am I going to provide for my family?

These were my issues every day. That’s why my foundation was a ticking time bomb in my earlier years. My foundation was like Jenga. One by one a piece of it was taken out every day. The only problem was I didn’t know how to put it back together and fill those gaps. That’s why I was destined to fail in life, and with whatever was in front of me down the road.

Come Up With A Plan

At the time, it didn’t matter how old I was or what I wanted to accomplish in life. For years I was ignoring the elephant in the room and ignoring my issues. I would try and pick up the pieces and it would collapse right away when I would let go.

Building yourself up from the ground up is step one. That’s why if your mindset sucks and your always negative, you might as well throw in the towel and not waste your time. It’s so important to look at what you’re doing every day. We need to get back to the basics and start building ourselves up first. From there use that drive and motivation, and share it with the world.

The Road Never Ends

The Road Never Ends

Regardless of where you are in your life, good or bad. If not yet, we will all be going through something at some point in our lifetime that will test us. If you haven’t been through any tuff times or situations, that can be good, or bad. Maybe it’s about time you get out of your comfort zone and start living?

It doesn’t matter what your friends, family, or whoever is saying to you. If it’s positive well then take that in and use that as motivation and advice to keep going. If its negative, maybe that makes you mad or pissed you off with what they said. That’s good, whatever they said or did that started a light and fire within you. Maybe that’s all you need to take that final push in life and to keep going. That was the final piece to help get you start living.

Enjoy The Ride

Life is like a journey, in case you didn’t know that haha. We have good times, bad times. Sometimes you might wonder why is this happening to me? What did I do to deserve this? Maybe sometimes you feel like you have taken a wrong turn and it’s a dead end? It’s natural to think, well now what do I do? I can’t go this way, which direction do I go?

Unfortunately, that’s life, there is no playbook. People might have suggestions and tips for when things come up, which can be helpful. In the end, we are all different, and all going through different situations and scenarios in life. Nobody can predict your outcome and what might happen. Sometimes, life just kicks our butt and knocks us down. Maybe you need to reverse and backtrack a little bit and get back on course.

Lessons Or Blessings

I personally think with everything I went through, and still going through. Those turnarounds and backtracking you have to do sometimes, turn you into a better person in the end. Those roadblocks and turns that we take every day, or whenever those situations come up. Sometimes I think those can be a blessing and help a lot more then you think down the road. At the moment those situations might suck and be hard and frustrating. Well duh, because it’s hard and taking you out of your safe zone. Again, that’s how you grow and become a better and stronger you in the end.

Maybe not right away or during whatever incident that pops up at the time. Look at life and the journey we’re on like a GPS. Except its modified, we are all going down our own unique path, every day, every week and so on. Sometimes we turn off thinking its where were supposed to go, and that’s the direction we’re supposed to take. Now when we hear those horrible words “Recalculating” we think, crap what did I do, now what?

You Still Have To Work

For me, our future is already planned out and our path is already laid out in front of us. That’s why I don’t think the road will ever end for us because everything we go through every day is all a part of our life. The only time the road will end, I believe is when it’s our time to check out here on earth.

Now just because I believe my path and life is already made up and laid out in front of me. That doesn’t mean I get to kick up my feet and wait for God to take me in the direction I meant to go. No, I think that’s wrong and a mistake a lot of us take every day. We use that as an excuse and a copout sometimes.

Never Stop Working

Yes, I’m a Christian and believe in God, I’ve made that clear earlier. But that doesn’t mean I don’t have to work, and I can coast through life. No, that’s a lazy way to live your life and that’s CRAP. Look around you? Look at all of the people that are taken from us from a young age, and far too soon sometimes? Here I am at 27 about to be 28 in about a month. Some might say I have seen a lot of life so far, some might say I’m only getting started. That’s just two different opinions about life.

To me and what I think, I’m only getting started. I feel like I only started living life and making the most of it three years ago. From age 6-25 that was my foundation and building me into the person, I’m meant to become. Was it a long process, of course, it always is? Most good things take time and take a while to build.

One Of A Kind

“Whenever you get frustrated with yourself to remember that it takes 13 hours to build a Toyota and six months to build a Rolls-Royce.”

Look at business as another example, Nike, or Apple. When those companies started, it was a bumpy road, just look into their history. That’s life that’s our life, you get out of it what you put in. Now, look at them now, Nike is worth 16 Billion Apple is worth 146 Billion, with a B haha.

Don’t ever be afraid of starting, and taking that chance. The best of the best had to start somewhere, just like you and me. That’s all a part of the journey we are on every day. Try and make the most of it, and as hard as it might sometimes embrace the suck. Those hard times, and at the time might seem like wrong turns. In the end, that could turn into a blessing and turn you into the person you are meant to become. Just like me, I wouldn’t change anything from ages 6-25. Those years were my foundation and building me into the person I am today. Remember the road never ends in your life. The only reason why it ends is if you let it.

What’s Your Definition Of F.E.A.R?

F.E.A.R.

What’s Your Definition Of F.E.A.R? Forget Everything and Run, or Face Everything and Rise. If you asked me when I was growing up and in my early years. I would lie and say, of course, face everything. But on the inside, I was scared I feared everything, that’s why I created my mask.

I was scared I wasn’t going to be able to accomplish anything, and that I didn’t have a purpose in life. I feared that my disability will control my life and how I lived and what was in front of me. It was all mental and it was my mindset I had to fix, not the actual roadblock in front of me. Most of the time if you think about it, its what’s inside of our head is the biggest problem. Not what actually is in front of us and trying to stop us. We see this roadblock or wall in front of us and think to ourselves, well I can’t get through that or get over that, and just turn around.

My Failures

That’s where I failed so many times, and for most of my earlier years. I let my disability and the few weaknesses I had, control and overpower the strengths that I had. All through my strengths and our strengths outweigh and are bigger than our weaknesses. It’s easy to let the bad outweigh the good when we are down and feeling upset and vulnerable. Why do we always do that, why isn’t it easier to fight and control?

Is it because we are weak and we don’t have the strength to fight, of course not. We all have the strength and are all capable to keep fighting and keep going every day. We just chose to let the few hiccups and faults we have control are life and outcome that’s in front of us. Are mind already made up its decision to waive the white flag and give up? We already decided our fear was going to control our outcome.

My Dark Cloud

For me, I was ashamed and embarrassed for what cloud was over my head for the last 20 years of my life. That little cloud that was hanging over me, and following me where ever I would go every day. I kept getting so distracted with where I was in the moment, and not looking at where I could be in the near future? I didn’t want to try, I didn’t want to fail any more than I already did in my past. So, I just set up shop and accepted my path and let my fear control me and that was it. Not knowing when I accepted my fear and stayed where I was. I was scared to face what was in front of me, and what was holding me back.

Now at 27 and within the last few years, my mindset has changed. At 25 I finally started living for the first time in my life. Do I wish it was earlier, well duh who wouldn’t? But if it would have been earlier, who knows where I would be now? Everything happens for a reason, so that’s why I believe my past and my life helped build me and turned me into the person I am today.

Being dyslexic, was a blessing in disguise and a gift I never thought I would be happy to have. Now I’m grateful to be a part of this unique dyslexia club. Sure, I still have my moments and flows with my LD every once and awhile. Honestly, I always will till I take my last breath.

Time To Take A Stand

After all this time, I decide it’s time to stand and stop running. If you know me you know I hate running. I run now because it’s disciplining me to accomplish something that’s bigger than me. I want to finish an Ironman, but it goes more beyond my own physical goals in my life. When I take my final breath at the end of the road, whenever that might be. Looking back, I want to be proud of what I did, and I want to look back and be happy with the person I was and what I accomplished.

My first 20 years was my foundation and help build me into the person I am today, and who I was meant to become. But my first 20 years of my life, I was scared of life, I was scared to live. That’s not me anymore, that can’t be me anymore. After all this time, I’m finally starting to like the person that God created, and who I’m starting to turn into. Trust me it has been a long road to finally like the real Peter A. Harrower.

My Next 20 Years

Now I feel like my life is only begging. Of course, if I’m lucky enough to be around that long, I need to make them better than my first 20. Not just for me now, but for you, for the outcasts or the kids that ever felt different and alone. That’s why I need to rise and keep going and why I can’t ever waive that white flag and give up again. The number of people, and kids that need help or that need a friend or whatever you want to call it. That number is getting bigger and bigger every day.

If my unique story and putting myself out there can help them, well then it will be worth getting out of my comfort zone and helping others. It will be a job well done if kids can start living a better and healthy life for a change. That’s what I’m about now, that’s who the new Peter is. It’s about helping the kids that need it and showing them no matter what, they can win in life. All they have to do is decide and stop running. We all need to start living life to the fullest and Face Everything and Rise.