Chapter 6
If you could pick five words that are important to you, what would you pick? It doesn’t have to be the same letter. I didn’t try that when I wrote this chapter. Let me know what your words are, I’m curious what you picked.
Faith
For me, this has to go first. With me being a Christian I have to start with this first. Now do I have all of the answers absolutely not. Has it been easy trying to grow my faith over the years, of course not? Especially when I was younger and really going through my battles in my 20s and blaming God for alot of things.
Yes, it’s been a struggle but I feel in a way that has only helped me to grow my relationship a little more. Is there more growing I need to do and get better in, of course, there always will be.
Family
Next is the second most important thing to me. I have an amazing family I’m very lucky and blessed and not going to deny it. Now we are a family, do we have our moments, of course. Just because we’re family doesn’t mean we never fight or not have issues. I have three older sisters and I love them obviously and would do anything for them. With me being the younger and only brother, I always told myself it was my job to look after them. Now that they are married, I moved on from that now. They aren’t my problem anymore, they are my brother in laws problems now haha.
I’m very close with my parents also. Now in my earlier years when it came to school, I didn’t like them very much because I was getting upset and was mad. It wasn’t personal, I was more mad about the situation and what I was struggling with. They were trying to help me with my homework and studying and well you know how I feel about that. I think most of the fights we have had in my life, probably 90% had to do with school. Now I have my own family I started seven months ago with my beautiful wife and our pup.
Fitness
Now most of my life and through high school and early 20’s I have always been skinny and lanky. Now a big person doesn’t like to be called fat, is the same thing as a lanky kid like myself doesn’t like to be called skinny. That’s what I’ve always been. I got sick of it and I needed to change.
Around 20 I started working out more because that was around the time when my struggles really started. I was lacking confidence in myself and doubting myself a lot. Maybe if I can put some muscle on that might help me feel a little better.
When I graduated I was maybe 160 pounds soaking wet. Now I’m 186 and stronger than ever before. Now was that easy of course not. I put hundreds of hours in over the years to get where I am today. Was easy of course not, it’s not supposed to be. Was it worth it, absolutely? Pushing yourself and making tuff goals aren’t supposed to be easy. It’s supposed to stretch you and push you and make you work to reach them.
Future
Now how I came to picking future for my number four word. Faith is trusting God with my life and future. Family is going to be my support system and help me when I need it. Fitness is going to give me the strength and the discipline to start working towards my goals and help push me. Now the future comes in next. If those first three are good then my future looks better. If I don’t have Faith and say fitness for example, then I won’t be healthy and my future won’t look very promising.
That’s why in order to have a good future, you need to push yourself and take care of yourself now. Will it be easy of course not? Will it be worth it? Well, how you answer that question is the effort you put into it every day to get the life you always wanted and dreamed for.
Fun
If my faith is good, the family is happy, I’m healthy and pushing myself in fitness. My future is promising and looking good with how hard I’m working. Now is the time to have fun and enjoy life. After all, you only get one life, so enjoy it.
We all have a purpose and we all have meaning. Yes, it takes some of us a long time to find it, but that’s ok. God doesn’t make mistakes, his timing, when he wants something to happen, is perfect. Now, will we always understand it or like what he decides, no probably not. But that’s where faith comes in. We have to trust him.
Live Those Words
I know how lucky I am because not many people have a close family like me, that alone makes me feel very blessed and lucky. Fitness is what’s been helping me fight these battles over the years and helped keep me fighting and not giving up. Now my future looks better and better every day. Is my future promised, of course not? With how hard I’m working now to try and give my wife the life she deserves. That hunger and drive are pushing me like I have never been pushed before. That drive is helping me get out of my comfort zone every day to share my message and story with you.
Life is short, life should be fun. Let’s all enjoy it and be happy and make the most of our life. We only get one chance. Don’t live in the past learn from it. Work hard now and keep kicking butt. Your present is enjoyable and gives you purpose. From there, your future looks much more promising and better with how hard your working in the present with the effort you’re putting in now.